Sociopaths hate the truth

Sociopaths Hate the Truth, Hate to Lose, and Hate to be Outted

Over at AngieMedia, Rob has authored an insightful piece titled Sociopaths In Our Midst Hate the Truth and Its Advocates on the inner-workings of a sociopath. Here are some important points from his posting:

  1. Sociopaths do not want the truth about them to be known as they are insecure, malicious, and devious people. They have a strong fear of being exposed.  If others were to know about their true nature, they realize that most people would want nothing to do with them.
  2. A Sociopath will tend to build communities of people they control and manipulate for the purpose of getting them to lie, perjure, attack, harass, steal, and solicit others. Many Sociopaths recruit others to help them in this way, typically using lies, distortions, and other people’s own experiences to convince them that they should help ruin another person’s life. Sociopaths tend to prefer to use these other people as tools as another layer of insulation against being found out. Bill Eddy calls them “negative advocates” in many of his writings. Rob refers to them as the “minions” of the sociopath. Some of these minions may later realize that they were used to harm innocent people and end up feeling very bad about their own actions, but only if they break free of the Sociopath themselves; most minions probably never understand how wrong they were and did not realize that they are/were victims themselves.  When they do realize their role in harming others, they are often too embarrassed to dare apologize to their victims.
  3. Those with an Anti-Social Personality Disorder, which includes sociopathy, will use lies, manipulations, and distortions to control other people and get what they want. As a result, Sociopaths have a strong motivation to attack, discredit, harass, and ruin anybody who presents arguments and facts that might tend to raise questions and doubts about their behaviors and their false statements. If someone “outs” the sociopath, they would likely lose this support network of malicious minions they control and incite to abuse other people.SD_Blog_Quote.jpg
  4. While Sociopaths do it with extraordinary intensity and dishonesty, the people they manipulate are likely to do it, too. After all, a sociopath was able to manipulate them into unjustly attacking a former partner, a child’s other parent, teacher, doctor, counselor, therapist, neighbor or some other party. Its not unusual for a long-term victim of the sociopath to take on the same traits of ASPD as a result of this exposure.
  5. Sociopaths don’t like to accept blame for anything, even if it is well-earned. Blaming is how they control others to harm the targets they viciously attack. Blame-shifting is one of the most common means of “self-defense” used by abusers and it can readily be used for offensive purposes, too. Sociopaths may move on to use blame-shifting, framing, and false accusations to attack and persecute people they don’t like. Blame-shifting, framing, and false accusations are mainstay abuse tactics for sociopaths.
  1. There is a very large overlap in actions and thoughts between sociopaths and “acting out” Borderlines, Narcissists, Antisocials, and Histrionics (the DSM-IV (and updated DSM-V), Axis II Cluster B personality disorders), so much so that they could be referred to as “sociopathic personality disorders” with a good degree of accuracy.
    • Sociopaths and Borderlines and Narcissists are also often confused with one another.
    • Not all Borderlines and Narcissists are sociopaths.
    • The sociopathic ones are a subset who engage in “acting out” behaviors to harm and control others, not the “acting in” type who are so traumatized by their inner demons that they mostly hurt themselves.
    • Sociopaths generally have a strong narcissistic streak, even if they may not meet the formal definition for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This also frequently can lead to misdiagnosis of the Sociopath as mental health professionals rarely have a clear opportunity to observe or note this external behavior; not only due to circucumstances, but the Sociopath prefers to try and mislead mental health professionals so as to not be “found out”.
  2. Sociopaths often use verbal abuse tactics. Yelling, swearing, or insulting another person now and then is something that most people will do in an argument. This may not be limited to verbal abuse, but likely also take the more modern forms of communication that include texting, social media, or other online tools. Sociopaths use these tactics as means to control and dominate others. Emotional abuse is often very subtle and pervasive. As such, it can escape notice until it has done a lot of damage to its victims. Regardless of whether an abuser is a full-blown sociopath, as abusers proceed to abuse others, they can incite such fear, anxiety, and confusion in their victims that the victims may start to act very poorly themselves. Sociopathic abusers often engage in distortion campaigns to control and manipulate others to prejudice them into having false beliefs about the victim.
  3. Parental alienators, people who aim to destroy relationships between children and a parent and other relatives, are often guilty of engaging in far more emotional abuse than just the harm they are doing to the children. This is especially true when they are working to sever ties between their victim/partner and the victim’s family.SD_Blog_Quote_02.jpg
  4. Victims, usually those who believe themselves to be partners or spouses of the Sociopath, may have thought they could help this person. Sadly, the Sociopath knows this and uses it against them. Many who attempt to “fix” the Sociopath” slowly succumb to the destruction of their personalities by psychological/emotional abuse that started subtly at first. Over the years, the abuse grew into something that they would have recognized as abusive if they had openly encountered these behaviors prior to their personalities being damaged by years of living with an abuser. But by then, they are so confused into being highly self-critical or desensitized to the onslaught that being called a bastard good-for-nothing liar, slapped on the face, and having a food thrown at them in front of their children may evoke feelings of relief, for at least it wasn’t worse and didn’t involve a kitchen knife, frying pan, baseball bat, or gun. Some of them may believe they deserved worse and be thankful for the abuser being “kind” by attacking with a verbal barrage rather than a fist or foot in the face. These victims that only wanted to help and love the Sociopath are so traumatized that they feel truly helpless and hopeless, unable to defend themselves or afraid to do so until the beatings, whether physical or emotional or verbal, become so intense that they break and retaliate. You could describe these victims as potential future abusers struggling to escape from their emotionally devastation by any means they can. The longer they are subjected to ongoing abuse, the higher the risk of this break from their normal behaviors becoming something enduring, perhaps even a personality disorder in and of itself. This is how children so often develop personality disorders, but the same could happen with adults subjected to severe long-term abuse.
  5. Sociopaths often use projection to hide their actions. Yet getting the sociopath’s minions to understand this is a Herculean task. Even if the target of abuse shows proof that it was actually the sociopathic false accuser who was having the affairs, committing crimes, and engaging in abuse and shares that proof that with parties who are being lied by the actual abuser, they will generally be brushed off, told to go away, or threatened and attacked further. This is a common pattern with friends and family of the abuser who might naturally be expected to take sides without regard to facts. But it also is common to do with church people, attorneys, courts, custody evaluators, psychologists, therapists, and others who should know better.

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